Friday, 27 January 2012

Party Politics

Open Letter To All School Gate Gossips

So it would seem that not inviting all 57 children in my sons year to his birthday party is the current topic up for discussion.  There are a few things that I feel need to be pointed out.

Firstly, my son can invite who he wants to his party.  If that does not include your child then I am sorry, I do genuinely feel bad but at the end of the day it is his choice.

Secondly, if he has not invited someone then he does not like them.  In a six year old's mind it is as simple as that.  I appreciate that this may sound harsh but he knows his own mind and will have his reasons.

Thirdly, when going through the list of names kindly provided by his teacher he was quite clear about the yes's and the no's.  Both his Dad and I double checked the list with him the next day to ensure he was definite about his decisions and he didn't change one name.  Not one.

And last but not least, not all of you invited him to your child’s party.  Maybe you should have a think about that.

The school run is my husband's job and he is much more diplomatic than me so think yourselves lucky because I am not sure I could be quite so polite about it.

The thing I detest most of all is the form of revenge you have taken.  My son’s best friend lives in the next street so they walk to school together.  This means that my husband walks to school with another woman.  It does not mean he is sleeping with her. 

Maybe you should all concentrate on your own lives for a little while.  Some of you certainly need to.


The Working Parent


  1. I agree wholeheartedly with your post. What nonsense to quibble of over children's parties -- and even worse to make it into an issue that generates awful, hurtful rumours about others. People need to get a life! Good for you to say something about it Working Parent!

  2. Thank you. I was starting to feel bad but it had to come out. Better on here than face to face!

  3. Very well said! Pathetic! Sad, shallow people. I can't believe people would expect to be invited! RUDE! Also, it is very typical school gate gossip style for people to say that about your husband, you know he isn't so that's all that matters. You sound like me though, I don't think I would be quite so polite about it all! xx

  4. In weaker relationships this could have spelt the end. Imagine being responsible for that out of spite. I just don't get it.

  5. My goodness. And I thought this kind of crap was limited to the women in the office moaning over whether they do or don't get invited to a play date or night out. I have one colleague (without child) who grumbles at being left out, even though she openly admits she can't stand kids. We can't win.

    Well said Working Parent.

  6. Thank you all so much! I wa starting to feel like such a bitch but all of you have made me feel so much better. I do think my husband is secretly chuffed that it would even have been considered possible - he is 47 and she is 22!

  7. Well said! You do make me laugh... xx


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